We’re thrilled to celebrate another anniversary with one of A Bicycle Built For Two‘s lovely couples! Leah and Lisa have graced our blog with their beautiful presence twice before—their engagement was featured in 2011 and their wedding was featured in 2012. Now, after four years, we’re excited to welcome them back!
Happy anniversary, Leah and Lisa, and thank you for sharing your story with us!
Give us a life update! Have there been any major milestones since we heard from you last?
The last time we were in touch was our wedding in 2012! We still follow the blog, of course. Our wedding in 2012 was awesome but our marriage still wasn’t recognized in California. When it became legal the following year, we quickly planned our intimate legal ceremony. Our wedding was on 6/8/2012 and our legal ceremony was on 8/6/2013. We had a beautiful, simple ceremony at the Disneyland Resort Esplanade! It’s that area between Disneyland and California Adventure. We have great photos from that day and it was really freaking awesome. We also began focusing more on our health. We’ve lost weight, began running, and have even completed some 5k runs! We have goals to run 10ks and even half marathons! While Lisa is currently researching universities for her Master’s degree in disability policy and ADA law, Leah is currently working on her second Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. Our oldest daughter, who was 17 at the time of our wedding, is almost 21. She moved out on her own 2½ years ago and is currently studying culinary arts. Our youngest daughter, who was almost 10 at that time, is now 13. She is active in drama and theater and will be attending a performing arts high school next year.
What is your favorite thing about being married?
Putting down one thing is hard! So we have a few. One favorite thing about being legally married is that we have the same rights as everyone else. There is no longer that fear that if something was to happen, we’d be separated or left out. Our marriage, and our friendship, just gets stronger every year. We still learn new things about each other and we laugh together every day.
What do you fight about?
Oddly, we really don’t fight. We do have discussions though! We’ve worked hard to get to a point in our relationship where we can come to each other openly without judgment or fear. It’s not always easy and sometimes, those discussions last a while. But we both want the same thing in the end – resolution and a better understanding of the other’s perspective. So, what do we discuss? We tend to discuss things like how to deal with our kids. That’s mostly it.
What advice would you give to people who have just gotten married?
Listen to each other; truly listen without thinking of the response, just listen. And trust each other – know that the vows you took mean something to both of you and work towards the value behind them.
What do you like best about your wife?
Leah: What I like best about my wife is how incredibly smart she is and her determination. I also love her appreciation of music.
Lisa: What I like best about my wife is her big, open heart. And I absolutely love when she laughs.
Describe a typical day in 5 words or less.
We are always going.
What is one thing you and your partner do to relax?
We put our phones away and just be with each other. We’ll sit on the couch with a fire going and a glass of wine or coffee and talk about anything and everything. Another thing we do is get outside and spend some time with nature.
What is the best wedding gift you received?
We had set up a honeymoon fund for our guests to give us gifts. In a sense, they gave us our honeymoon and that was wonderful. We got to spend a week up in Northern California, in Carmel, and it was lovely!
What moment from your wedding still stands out most in your mind?
We had made ribbon wands with bells for everyone. As our celebrant was announcing that we were married, we turned to look back at our guests. At that moment, everyone had stood up and was waving those wands; it was a sea of colors and with the bells’ soft ring, it still brings tears. It was incredible to have all of that love surround us.
[Editor’s note: Ashley is crying.]
If you had to compare your marriage to a food, what would you choose and why?
A sushi boat! It’s strong, colorful, healthy, and damn delicious!
Brides Revisited is a series in which we check back in with the couples who’ve appeared on our site in the past. If you and your one true person are interested in being featured, we’d love to hear from you—whether you call yourselves brides, brooms, spouses, or something else entirely!