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Popping the Question: Walking Down the Aisle

We’re back with another installment in Popping the Question, our series where we tackle questions unique to wedding planning as a queer couple.

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Photo courtesy of Jason Worrell Photography

Earlier this fall, we asked you about walking down the aisle. How do we, as queer couples approach this tradition? What unique and personal twists can we bring to this aspect of the wedding ceremony? Today, we’re featuring some of your answers! 

From Leah:

My wife and I danced our way down the aisle! Our music was from Pirates of the Caribbean (we’re Disney freaks, among other things we’re freaks about) so it worked out! The way our venue was set up, we had a short distance, and it intertwined with our guests. Pretty awesome to see my wife to be (extrovert) rock her way up to our ceremony space while I (introvert) got to kiss and hug all our guests on the route! Our Honor Party of Awesomeness walked into Hedwig’s Theme from Harry Potter (I am a Potterhead). One of the best aspects was that all of our music was played by an instrumental trio that included flute (my aunt), a cello, and a violin. We loved it!

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Photo courtesy of Karen Leah Photography. (See more from Leah and Lisa’s beautiful, colorful wedding here!) 

From Deborah:

In the first picture, you see my adult son “walking me down the aisle” (there was no aisle). As I said in the write-up to our wedding, “He didn’t want to give me away because it’s a patriarchal tradition, but I said to view it as being a psychopomp, and he agreed he could get behind that.”

My father passed away between the engagement and the wedding, but I wouldn’t have wanted him to walk me anyway. We didn’t have a good relationship, and my son was much more intimately involved with Melissa & I as a couple. Walking with Arthur felt more “us.”

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Photo courtesey of MPR Studio. (You can see more from Deborah and Melissa’s wedding here!) 

From Mel and Rachel:

Rachel and I (Mel) just got married June 3, 2017. We decided to forego a wedding party, and we’re both only children whose parents mean the world to us. The walk down the aisle began with our friend Topher, who walked our Yorkie mix Judy to the birch altar we bought on Etsy. (Judy wore a white dress too!) Then Rachel decided she wanted to go down the aisle before me, which worked out well because I wanted to go last! She walked in with a parent on each arm, and then I did the same. I wouldn’t change a thing!

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Thanks to everyone who responded! Stay tuned for our next Popping the Question soon! 

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Popping the Question: Love Songs

We’re back with another installment in Popping the Question, our series where we tackle questions unique to wedding-planning as a queer couple.

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This time, we’re focused on the challenge of picking a first dance song when a lot of songs don’t always feel like they apply to we queer humans the way they do to others.

From Deborah:

Our first dance was “This Must Be the Place (Naive Melody)” by the Talking Heads. For Melissa, the lyric that nailed it was “Home, is where I want to be/But I guess I’m already there”.

Read more about Deborah & Melissa in their Brides Revisited post

From Leah:

My wife and I signed our first dance in ASL. Well, we danced a little when there was only music. We signed “Give Me Your Forever” by Ben Harper. It was a surprise to everyone, as we didn’t tell a single soul what we were planning. It was pretty awesome to see and hear all of the reactions from our guests when we broke apart and started signing to each other.

We also thought we’d give few answers from the team here at A Bicycle Built for Two:

From Morgan:

“Love Me Like You Do” by Elle Goulding – This is good song to dance to and get the party started!

“Take Your Time”by Sam Hunt – I love this song about getting to know someone more and spending time together.

“For My Love” by Bethany Dillon – This one’s an older song—and technically off a Christian/gospel album—but it’s a great love song for everyone nonetheless.

jen and bethPhoto courtesy of Rachel Bayne Photography. (See more from Jen and Beth’s wedding here!)

From Adriana:

“Doo Wop” by Lauryn Hill -The song informed for the first year of my relationship with my girlfriend. We’d lay in various London parks, the sun shining down on us rapping (badly) to the song.

Meanwhile, Maggie and Ashley are hoping that Brandi Carlile miraculously comes out with a few more wedding appropriate songs before they tie the knot! Fingers crossed!

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A few other great ideas from our commenters (thanks, Deborah & Erica!)

“Heavenly Day” by Patty Griffin

“Wherever is Your Heart” by Brandi Carlile

“Love is the Seventh Wave,” as covered by The Duhks (and thus sung by a woman!)

“Here, There, and Everywhere” by The Beatles

megan and lauraPhoto courtesy of Madeline Faye Photography. (See more from Megan and Lauren’s wedding here.) 

Thanks for all your responses! Keep an eye out for the next installment of Popping the Question, when we’ll talk about how you chose to walk down the aisle.

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Popping the Question: Walking Down the Aisle

We’re back with another installment in Popping the Question, our series where we tackle questions unique to wedding-planning as a queer couple.

Today is all about strutting your stuff! We all know that “tradition” dictates how couples are supposed to walk down the aisle, but what happens to those of us who don’t fit into that traditional binary? If you’re already married, tell us: How did you decide who would walk down the aisle? Did you both walk down together? Or did you forgo that tradition entirely in favor of a different kind of grand entrance? If you’re planning—or just dreaming of—that perfect ceremony, how do you envision taking those all-important steps?

On a related note: what do dads have to do with any of this? Will pops be “giving you away”? Will you go it alone? Or will a member of your chosen family be walking you down the aisle?

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Whether you’re married, engaged, or simply dreaming of the big day, we’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment on this post or get in touch with us . We’ll be accepting responses though Friday, September 18th, and then we’ll compile a post with some of our favorite stories, so get in touch!

Photo courtesy of Cassandra Zetta

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Gallery: You’re Invited!

It’s easy to think that the wedding fun begins with the guests’ arrival, but arguably, it starts weeks—probably, even months—before that, when the invitations arrive in the mail! In honor of National Letterwriting Month (one of my favorite occasions), we’re featuring a smattering of beautiful invitations from our archives and inviting you to share your favorite invitation-related tips! Are you drawn to black and white? Bright and colorful? Travel-themed invites for your destination wedding? Gorgeous letterpress paper goods by artisans like longtime Bicycle friend Ladyfingers Letterpress? Online-only RSVPs?

Check out the variety of invitations here and share your thoughts with us in the comments!

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For more LBTQ wedding inspiration, check out our other galleries

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Popping the Question: Love Songs

Welcome to Popping the Question, our new series here at A Bicycle Built for Two, where we tackle questions unique to wedding-planning as a queer couple. 

Today, we’re thinking about music—a tricky thing for every couple, but one that can be made even trickier if you (like me) tend to get hung up on things like heteronormativity or gender pronouns! So today, we’re asking for suggestions for the ultimate LBTQ wedding playlist: What songs were or will be must-plays for your wedding day? What about that all-important “first dance” song?

Take a quick break from calling your senators and writing to Congress (you’re doing that, right, U.S. readers?) to drop us a line or leave a comment.

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What was your “first dance” song? What will be the theme song of your wedding? What are your favorite not-too-heteronormative love songs?

Share your song suggestions in the comments and/or via email. Then, we’ll make a playlist for everyone to enjoy!

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In other news, we’re always accepting your submissions. Now more than ever, we are committed to celebrating our love and our community, and seeing photos from your weddings and engagements in our inbox warms the cockles of our queer hearts!

Photo courtesy of Nicole Barr.

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Popping the Question: Put a Ring On It

Welcome to our new series here at A Bicycle Built for Two: Popping the Question! Based on the interests you expressed in our survey this summer, we’ll be tackling some questions that unique to wedding planning as a queer couple. 

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Today’s questions are all about engagement rings: How did you pick them out? Did one of you surprise the other? Was it important to you to have matching or complementary styles? Or did you skip the rings entirely, in favor of tattoos or an engagement puppy?

Whether you’re married, engaged, or simply dreaming of future rings, we’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment on this post or get in touch with us. We’ll be accepting responses through next Friday, November 25th, and then we’ll compile a post with some of our favorite stories, so get in touch!

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In other news, we’re always accepting your submissions. Now more than ever, we are committed to celebrating our love and our community, and seeing photos from your weddings and engagements in our inbox warms the cockles of our queer hearts!

Photos courtesy of Scott Martin Studio.

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Giveaway: The Wedding Book by Mindy Weiss

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The first thing you need to know about Mindy Weiss is that she planned Ellen and Portia’s wedding, and if that doesn’t impress you, well then, you probably shouldn’t keep reading!

Seriously, Mindy Weiss knows her stuff, and if that weren’t clear from her celebrity wedding credits, it would be obvious from the 484-page opus that is the revised and updated Wedding Book.

After perusing our review copy, I can assure you that it contains pretty much anything you could ever need to know about planning a wedding: from the different kinds of tents you might rent to the different kinds of lace you might find on your wedding gown (should you choose to wear one!).

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There’s information galore here, but the thing that really seduced me was the organizational resources. If you’re the sort of person who loves three-ring binders, you will swoon over the charts, checklists, and calendars in The Wedding Book: from a full-page list of shots you might request from your photographer to a budget breakdown and guide for estimating tips for everyone from your hairstylist to the catering staff. The back of the book includes not one, but two wedding-planning calendars—one for a one-year planning process, and another for if you’re working with less time.

This isn’t a book that focuses particularly on LBTQ weddings (maybe one day we’ll write that one for you!), but a free book is a free book, and this one covers nearly every aspect of wedding planning—from old-school concerns like picking out china patterns to decidedly modern tips on wedding hashtags and elegant ways to ban cellphones from your ceremony. There are a few notes on same-sex ceremonies sprinkled throughout the book, but the real value here is in the breadth and depth of information that applies to all kinds of unions. And although some of us here at A Bicycle Built for Two may be setting out to break traditions rather than uphold them, this book provides useful information to help you navigate conversations with family members who bring certain expectations to the wedding planning process.  

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Today, we’re giving away a copy of Mindy Weiss’s new and improved The Wedding Book to one lovely reader. To enter the giveaway, just leave a comment on this post telling us about the part of wedding planning you look forward to the most—or the least (or, if you’ve already tied the knot and plan on gifting the book to a friend, tell us what parts of your planning were the easiest and hardest). We’ll accept comments through this Friday at noon EST, then pick a winner.

Finally, if you want even more of The Wedding Book (or if you like looking at gorgeous photos of alpine venues!), stroll on over to Mountainside Bride, the next step on the book’s blog tour. We’ll be back on Wednesday with more LBTQ beauty here! 

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