You know what they say—clear eyes, full hearts, can’t lose!
Now feels like a time when seeing things clearly seems particularly important. So today, we’re offering up a collection of LBTQ brides and brooms in glasses, seeing clearly and looking good while doing it.
Hoping for more brides-with-glasses inspiration? Check back for Part Two on Wednesday! In the meantime, check out our other lesbian and queer wedding galleries right here.
From Danielle: Tracy and I originally met about 4 years ago through mutual friend groups. At the time we both were seeing other people. We reconnected a year and a half ago and this time we were both single. It was our fast-thinking mutual friends who planned a group outing that allowed our friendship and relationship to grow. We went on a hike with our dogs on Memorial Day of 2015 and have been together ever since. January was not the original plan for our wedding, but November 8th changed everything. Our wedding was not an act of fear, but an act of love and solidarity. Being able to celebrate our love in front of family and friends was one of our favorite parts of the day. The day was so laid back and drama free that we would both do it all over again. Tracy and I planned a wedding in 52 days on a $1,500 budget. Our advice: do what makes you happy. We omitted being walked down the aisle, father/daughter dances, unity symbols, traditional ceremony scripts, etc., and our day was amazing and filled with so much love and joy.
Photos courtesy of Wildflower Wedding Photography.
For even more amazing photos, check out Tracy & Danielle’s photographer’s blog.
Event CreditsAttire: Danielle's Dress - Modcloth / Tracy's Suit - Ao Dai (Jacket) & H&M (Pants)Cakes and Dessert: Peggy Jean's Pies - http://pjpies.com/Catering: McAllister's Deli - http://www.mcalistersdeli.com/locations/mo-columbia-grindstone-parkway-121/menu/beveragesFlorist: Danielle went DIY on almost all of the details. She made the fabric scrap garlands, the glass plate signs, guest favor glasses tags...Location: Columbia, MOOther: Beer - Logboat Brewing - http://www.logboatbrewing.com/ Wedding Rings - Buchrader's - https://brdiamonds.com/?gclid=CPG9iqXT2dECFRG4wAodU9UMAgPhotography: Wildflower Wedding Photography - www.wildflowerweddingphotography.comVenue: Friend's Backyard
Welcome to Popping the Question, our new series here at A Bicycle Built for Two, where we tackle questions unique to wedding-planning as a queer couple.
Today, we’re thinking about music—a tricky thing for every couple, but one that can be made even trickier if you (like me) tend to get hung up on things like heteronormativity or gender pronouns! So today, we’re asking for suggestions for the ultimate LBTQ wedding playlist: What songs were or will be must-plays for your wedding day? What about that all-important “first dance” song?
Take a quick break from calling your senators and writing to Congress (you’re doing that, right, U.S. readers?) to drop us a line or leave a comment.
What was your “first dance” song? What will be the theme song of your wedding? What are your favorite not-too-heteronormative love songs?
Share your song suggestions in the comments and/or via email. Then, we’ll make a playlist for everyone to enjoy!
In other news, we’re always accepting your submissions. Now more than ever, we are committed to celebrating our love and our community, and seeing photos from your weddings and engagements in our inbox warms the cockles of our queer hearts!
From the brides: We met while working for our college newspaper almost eight years ago. We’ve moved through cities and careers together, and now Ivy works for a nonprofit and Courtney works for the state House of Representatives. We got married on the evening of December 31st in our backyard because we thought 2016 needed something nice in it!*
Photos courtesy of Reggie Beehner Photography.
*(For similar reasons, we’ve scheduled this post to go up at noon today.)
Event CreditsLocation: KentuckyPhotography: Reggie Beehner Photography
We’ve never posted about a friendship ceremony before, but when Vy & Sahaja got in touch, we couldn’t resist sharing their story! Here’s what they had to say:
We are Vy (lesbian) & Sahaja (label-rejecting pansexual). We are from Moscow, Russia.
We are friends – nothing more and nothing less. Vy has been in a committed relationship for years. Sah is currently single. We met in early high school, and no matter our romantic statuses, we have been family for each other ever since (17 years and counting).
How did it start?
Vy: I’m a wild fan of On a Bicycle Built for Two. For years I’ve been dreaming about my own submission. But it took an unexpected turn: I realized that the first commitment ceremony I wanted was one with my best friend.
Sah: All of a sudden we saw how unreasonable it is that our society has developed no generally accepted way for those not romantically involved (friends, family members, etc.) to celebrate their love and commitment to each other.
What was the plan?
Sah: We decided to celebrate our love and say “thank you” for our past, “I trust you” for our present, and “we will” for our future in a friendship commitment ceremony in a beautiful old park in London. The plan was to say our friendship vows, exchange our friendship rings, and play our friendship songs for each other.
Vy: The preparation for the ceremony was a bonding miracle. Just one example: I will never forget how it turned out that we both chose the same thing to be engraved on our friendship commitment rings: it was “ebb & flood & ebb & flood” – in reference to Khalil Gebran’s The Prophet, on friendship: “And let your best be for your friend. If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also. For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill? Seek him always with hours to live.”
What was the best part?
Sah: The best part for me was how exactly this project of ours brought itself into life. No one to thank for it but ourselves. Simple perfection, as crystal clear and true as we dared to make and experience.
Vy: All the way down to the ceremony I had fits of commitment anxiety: my vows were so damn serious. But as I was standing in that solemn moment right in front of Sah, in the middle of London, against a crowd of frowning, disapproving-looking folks, all I was seeing were her eyes – it felt like I was looking in them for the first time so openly, so confidently. We were standing on top of the world, on the top of us.
And what now?
Sah: Now we’re rock solid in knowing that there always will be an ebb and a flood and an ebb and a flood for us – and we will stay together through it all.
Vy: The ceremony totally impacted us. Further up and further in.
Event CreditsDate: 04/05/2016Location: London, UK
From Jane, the brides’ photographer: Brittany and Erica first met in May 2014. Brittany swept Erica off her feet when she sent her a message on her online dating profile about macaroni and cheese. When the two met in person at Ubon Thai restaurant in Wilmington, Delaware, they hit it off right away.
On September 4, 2015, in Bethany Beach, Delaware—just a few miles down the coast from where they shared their second date—Brittany proposed to Erica. Showing off her creative side, Brittany created a homemade picture book that told their love story and Erica read it as they enjoyed a picnic. A little over a year later, they are thrilled to be celebrating the start of this next chapter with beloved family and friends!
Erica and Britt are a couple full of joy and who bring everyone together in any setting. Their wedding was no exception. There wedding was aboard a boat that took the couple from engaged to married to dancing in the mist of a beautiful nighttime cruise!