From Victoria: I have been a long time reader of A Bicycle Built for Two and I am so excited to share our photos with y’all. Did I have a wedding just to put the photos on this site? Hard to know.
When we set out to plan our wedding we sat down and listed the things we were going to really care about and decided to not get too stressed about everything else. We wanted good food, beautiful photos and a ceremony that was note religious but felt like a covenant. Oh, and Jessie wanted to look incredible. Spoiler: she did. (Thanks, Bindle and Keep for making gender queer suits!)
When we started planning we still couldn’t be married in North Carolina, so we decided to borrow from the Quakers and have our wedding be a witnessing by our community and have everyone come up and sign our wedding certificate. Our officiant is a beloved queer elder who has been with her wife for 17 years. In the end we were able to be legally married on our wedding weekend, so we eloped with just immediate family a few days before the wedding. The magistrate even asked us how we refer to one another! (Spouses or happy couple were our gender neutrals of choice.) A queer victory indeed.
Our wedding style was “Retro Latina Whimsy”; my family is from Argentina, so we wanted to have a big asado with lots of dancing. We chose a butcher instead of a caterer and a venue out in the country so we could dance well into the night.
We are so lucky to have such talented family members who stitched together our wedding with their beautiful work. My mom and I made my dress, Jessie’s aunt and uncle made our rings at their shop, everyone pitched in to arrange flowers from our farmer’s market, and my cousin made our wedding certificate. I even got a little crafty and made the hem of an attendant’s dress into a bow tie. Jessie’s attendants were our beloved queer family who went all in with butch up-dos and looked pretty darn great in their suits. We had only one snafu: a bee climbed into my dress mid-ceremony. (Yup, I’m allergic. Nope, I didn’t bring my epi-pen to my wedding.) My sister got the little guy out of there and we all had a huge laugh about it before getting back to the vows.
The other Argentinian element I wanted to bring in is a tradition called “carnival carioca” where at the end of the wedding, as the music heats up we get out crazy costumes. I would have never guessed what a hit it would be with my Michigan in-laws! It was a great week and we are so lucky to have friends and family who were so eager to celebrate our relationship with such open hearts. And I hope you enjoy taking a peek at our photos!
Photos courtesy of Hartman Outdoor Photography.