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Brides Revisited: Shoshana & Meredith

London-based couple Shoshana and Meredith were first featured on the blog in 2014, when they shared their adorable engagement story. Since then, they have been busy with their vlog, Shoshana’s illustration and greeting card business, Shoshy Cadoodle (she does wedding invitations, friends!), and so much more!

Our new Outreach Editor, Adriana, sat down with the couple to bring you our first in-person Brides Revisited!

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Having conquered long distance and gotten married in 2014, Meredith and Shoshana now live in London with their cat, Monkey. I sat down with the charming married duo on a grey drizzly Saturday morning. What’s apparent upon meeting them is how warm they are. Turning up 20 minutes late, I profusely apologized, only to be greeted by Shoshana offering to buy me a coffee. After settling in an outdoor courtyard, I launched into questions:

Would you have gotten married at the same time as you did if you hadn’t been living in two different countries?

M: I knew it was love at first sight. Shoshana’s more practical. I would have.

S: It’s hard to say, I think. I think we would have continued dating, but it might have been a longer time frame for us to get engaged and married.

Did you find it hard when Meredith moved, Shoshana?

S: I think that moving in together was a big step and I think that was the biggest step for us actually, not the getting married bit.

How have your parents been about everything, in general? Their reaction to you both getting married and moving?

M: My parents are really supportive of us getting married, but I think it was difficult for my mom with me moving all the way to the UK, as we’re a really close family and I think it might have changed the dynamic of our family unit in some ways.

S: We usually go [to visit] once or twice a year; sometimes Meredith goes on her own, sometimes I go with her.

M: My parents were cool with me and Meredith. I think they found it harder when I came out. Our parents get on really well, which is nice.

S: I think when you get married you’re also marrying someone’s family. It’s like you’re merging mini cultures and you have to get to know their traditions. It’s a relationship that takes time.

M: We’re quite lucky we got on straight away with each other’s family.

What’s the best thing about being married?

M: I found when I was dating it was difficult for me to be myself fully, whereas with Shoshana I do ridiculous things with her and I think there’s this shared moment where we like look at each other and smile… Like if something weird happens we can just look over at each other and know what the other is thinking.

S: I think for me, it’s having that constant support and love.

M: I also say what she says!

What’s the best thing you do on a weekend? Any weekend traditions?

S: Coffee is an always thing. I don’t think we necessarily have weekend traditions. At the moment our weekends and weeks are more blurred. Since I work from home and Meredith is waiting to start a course in filmmaking in September, we see each other a lot.

What do you guys fight about?

M: Cupcakes!

S: We did yesterday.

Do you ever fight about the fact that you (Meredith) moved so far to be with Shoshana?

M: No, I did make that decision. It’s never been something I’ve held against Shoshana. Luckily we go back enough. I can’t speak for Shoshana, but sometimes it’s just about picking and choosing what to fight about.

S: We usually argue about something small/insignificant…. We fight about food a lot.

What’s one piece of advice you would give to newlyweds?

M: It’s nice to have side projects together. I think, when I was working, I really enjoyed being creative with Shoshana—we did this by making our video content (our YouTube channel).

S: That’s quite hard, I’m trying to think… Maybe make some plans… Have a project that you can work on together.

What’s the quality you admire most in each other?

M: Shoshana, if she has a dream or an idea, she follows through on it.

S: I like how funny and silly Meredith can be.

What’s a quality you dislike (if there is anything)?

M: Shoshana can be impatient at times…

S: Sometimes Meredith is a bit scared that she’s posted something online or she hasn’t locked the door… a bit obsessive. (I know it’s not something you can change). I think that your life would be easier if you could overcome that.

If you could visit anywhere in the world together and experience something completely new where would it be?

S: Either Africa, but I’m a bit worried about homophobia, or Australia.

M: We’d like to go somewhere wild, sleep in a treehouse. But a obviously a lush treehouse.

Favourite rainy day activity?

S: Watching TV

M: Watching Gilmore Girls!

What are some long-term goals? Where/what would you both like to be doing 5 years from now?

M: Filmmaking. I’d love a tandem bike.

S: At the moment, I work from home. I like the flexibility my job gives me. I run workshops and create greeting cards. I’m working on designing wedding invitations. In the future, I want to push my illustration, get more editorial work. Maybe have a baby.  

What’s a go-to gesture you’d do to show you care?

S: I’d cook you a meal with all your favourite things.

M: I think I’d do what I usually do which is I would write you a letter… Leave it in a place where only you would find it.

Thank you to Meredith and Shoshana for continuing to share your story with us! Brides Revisited is a series in which we check back in with the couples who’ve appeared on our site in the past. If you and your one true person are interested in being featured, we’d love to hear from you—whether you call yourselves brides, brooms, spouses, or something else entirely!

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Brides Revisited: Jessica & Cherry

Canadian couple Jessica and Cherry are A Bicycle Built for Two regulars—you may remember their engagement photos from back in 2013 and their gorgeous 2014 Vancouver wedding. So, you can imagine our excitement when they got in touch with us with an exciting update! Here’s Cherry:

In 2015, Jessica and I have decided to start a family. We conceived our son Cassius via IUI (Intra-Uterine Insemination). Our son was born in June 2016. He brings so much joy in our lives. We love him so much.

Thank you so much for sharing your story with us over the course of these last few years, Jessica & Cherry! We couldn’t be more excited for you and your beautiful family.

Photos courtesy of Kyla Dawn and others.

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Brides Revisited is a series in which we check back in with the couples who’ve appeared on our site in the past. If you and your one true person are interested in being featured, we’d love to hear from you—whether you call yourselves brides, brooms, spouses, or something else entirely!

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Date: 06/27/2016Location: Calgary, Alberta, Canada
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Brides Revisited: Mya & Holly— and Judah!

We love hearing from folks who have been on the blog in the past, and so, we were delighted to hear from Mya & Holly, just about a year after their ridiculously gorgeous San Francisco City Hall wedding appeared on the site!

From Mya: Hello again! Our wedding was featured on the site in January of 2015 and so much has happened since then that I wanted to send a little family update. We welcomed our son Judah in March of this year and it’s been the most thrilling experience that Holly and I have ever had. Our friends at Blueberry Photography were gracious enough to snap some photos of our little family and I adore showing them off! Here’s to hoping that everyone has a safe and joyful holiday season and that 2017 brings brighter days for our community. 

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Brides Revisited is a series in which we check back in with the couples who’ve appeared on our site in the past. If you and your one true person are interested in being featured, we’d love to hear from you—whether you call yourselves brides, brooms, spouses, or something else entirely!

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Date: 12/14/2016Location: Berkeley, CAPhotography: Blueberry Photography: http://www.blueberryphotography.com/
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Bride & Broom Revisited: Deborah & Melissa

If you’re a long-time visitor to the site, you’ll probably remember Deborah and Melissa’s wedding, which featured a kilt, a Wiccan handfasting, and lots of amazing Tarot-themed details. Just last week, the couple celebrated their third wedding anniversary, and Deborah wrote to us with an update!

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Give us a life update! Have there been any major milestones since we heard from you last? (New houses, new babies, new brownie recipes to share…)

Our lives have changed so much for the better, it’s amazing. My son moved into his own place. I’d been chafing in my dull suburb for a long time, but I sure didn’t want to buy a new home for the three of us. After he moved, I left the door open for him for a year, and then started fixing up the house to put on the market. We found the perfect place, a dream apartment in the “Historic Downtown” neighborhood of Jersey City! (You’ve actually featured an engagement shoot in my neighborhood.) So, we went from a suburban townhouse near a mall and not much else, where we were usually the only same-sex couple within sight for weeks at a time, to a trendy, diverse urban neighborhood, and we couldn’t be happier.

We also sold both the old cars and got a brand new Subaru (oh, the cliché!)—only one car needed in the city. We honeymooned in St. Croix, and visited Brazil a year later. The following year we were too busy moving to travel, so now we’re figuring out what our next trip will be.

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What is your favorite thing about being married?

I love both the emotional and practical things about sharing my life. Finances are so much easier, after fifteen years as a single mother! I love making decorating decisions (and then implementing them) together. I love a sounding board. I love snuggles. I love someone to pick up the slack in the house. All of the things that mean “partnership.”

What do you fight about?

Our communication styles are really different. Sometimes we fight about whether or not we’re having a fight, or why we’re having a fight, which is just about as insane as it sounds. I’m a talk-everything-out type, she’s a silently-think-it-over type. When we do it my way, she feels emotionally flooded, and when we do it her way, I feel bottled up and frustrated. We’re still finding a path through that.

What advice would you give to people who have just gotten married?

I don’t think I’ve ever heard better advice than Dan Savage’s “price of admission.”

What do you like best about your spouse?

She’s smarter than me. She’s so smart. I love bragging that I am married to a history professor, I think that is so cool. She has a long list of amazing qualities, but that’s my number one.

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Describe a typical day in 5 words or less.

Work Work Eat TV Work

What is one thing you and your partner do to relax?

We love going to the movies, or curling up with Netflix at home.

What is the best wedding gift you received?

Cards Against Humanity with three expansion packs!

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What moment from your wedding still stands out the most in your mind?

So many! Melissa pretending to steal the wedding cake, our first dance to “This Must Be the Place,” my first dance with my son to “Ca Plane Por Moi”, my son diving across the room and catching the bouquet, Melissa singing to me (we had karaoke), watching the Perseid meteor shower as the reception wound down.

If you had to compare your marriage to a food or animal, what would you choose and why?

We’re like a housecat—a little overfed, a little lazy, but content and really, really cute.

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Brides Revisited is a series in which we check back in with the couples who’ve appeared on our site in the past. If you and your one true person are interested in being featured, we’d love to hear from you—whether you call yourselves brides, brooms, spouses, or something else entirely!

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Brides Revisited: Leah & Lisa

We’re thrilled to celebrate another anniversary with one of A Bicycle Built For Two‘s lovely couples! Leah and Lisa have graced our blog with their beautiful presence twice before—their engagement was featured in 2011 and their wedding was featured in 2012. Now, after four years, we’re excited to welcome them back!

Happy anniversary, Leah and Lisa, and thank you for sharing your story with us!

Give us a life update! Have there been any major milestones since we heard from you last? 

The last time we were in touch was our wedding in 2012!  We still follow the blog, of course.  Our wedding in 2012 was awesome but our marriage still wasn’t recognized in California.  When it became legal the following year, we quickly planned our intimate legal ceremony.  Our wedding was on 6/8/2012 and our legal ceremony was on 8/6/2013.  We had a beautiful, simple ceremony at the Disneyland Resort Esplanade!  It’s that area between Disneyland and California Adventure.  We have great photos from that day and it was really freaking awesome.  We also began focusing more on our health.  We’ve lost weight, began running, and have even completed some 5k runs!  We have goals to run 10ks and even half marathons!  While Lisa is currently researching universities for her Master’s degree in disability policy and ADA law, Leah is currently working on her second Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy.  Our oldest daughter, who was 17 at the time of our wedding, is almost 21.  She moved out on her own 2½ years ago and is currently studying culinary arts.  Our youngest daughter, who was almost 10 at that time, is now 13.  She is active in drama and theater and will be attending a performing arts high school next year.

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What is your favorite thing about being married?

Putting down one thing is hard!  So we have a few. One favorite thing about being legally married is that we have the same rights as everyone else.  There is no longer that fear that if something was to happen, we’d be separated or left out.  Our marriage, and our friendship, just gets stronger every year.  We still learn new things about each other and we laugh together every day.

What do you fight about?

Oddly, we really don’t fight.  We do have discussions though!  We’ve worked hard to get to a point in our relationship where we can come to each other openly without judgment or fear.  It’s not always easy and sometimes, those discussions last a while.  But we both want the same thing in the end – resolution and a better understanding of the other’s perspective.  So, what do we discuss? We tend to discuss things like how to deal with our kids.  That’s mostly it.

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What advice would you give to people who have just gotten married?

Listen to each other; truly listen without thinking of the response, just listen.  And trust each other – know that the vows you took mean something to both of you and work towards the value behind them.

What do you like best about your wife?

Leah: What I like best about my wife is how incredibly smart she is and her determination.  I also love her appreciation of music.

Lisa: What I like best about my wife is her big, open heart. And I absolutely love when she laughs.

Describe a typical day in 5 words or less.

We are always going.

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What is one thing you and your partner do to relax?

We put our phones away and just be with each other.  We’ll sit on the couch with a fire going and a glass of wine or coffee and talk about anything and everything.  Another thing we do is get outside and spend some time with nature.

What is the best wedding gift you received?

We had set up a honeymoon fund for our guests to give us gifts.  In a sense, they gave us our honeymoon and that was wonderful. We got to spend a week up in Northern California, in Carmel, and it was lovely!

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What moment from your wedding still stands out most in your mind?

We had made ribbon wands with bells for everyone.  As our celebrant was announcing that we were married, we turned to look back at our guests. At that moment, everyone had stood up and was waving those wands; it was a sea of colors and with the bells’ soft ring, it still brings tears.  It was incredible to have all of that love surround us.

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If you had to compare your marriage to a food, what would you choose and why?

A sushi boat!  It’s strong, colorful, healthy, and damn delicious!

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Brides Revisited is a series in which we check back in with the couples who’ve appeared on our site in the past. If you and your one true person are interested in being featured, we’d love to hear from you—whether you call yourselves brides, brooms, spouses, or something else entirely!

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Brides Revisited: The Annas

There are so many wonderful things about running this blog, but one of the absolute best is when we can help one of you surprise a wife or partner on a special occasion. Anna & Anna’s wedding was five years ago today, and we are thrilled to celebrate them with this sweet post from one Anna to another. Read on to see what they’ve been up to in the last few years—and happy ANNA-versery to one of our favorite same-named couples!

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Give us a life update! Have there been any major milestones since we heard from you last? 

Anna (“the short one in the dress”): Absolutely! In December 2012 I finished my master’s degree in Human-Computer Interaction/design (HCI/d) from Indiana University in Bloomington. Shortly after, I got a job as a UX Designer in Indianapolis, and we’ve been living there ever since.

2014 was a big year for us. I started at job at Salesforce (which turned out to be one of the companies that was instrumental in striking down discriminatory anti-LGBT legislation in Indiana). In May 2014, on our 3-year wedding anniversary, we went to San Diego (where Anna V grew up) and got legally married. Unfortunately, at the time, when we returned to Indiana our marriage wasn’t recognized by the state, but luckily we didn’t have to wait too terribly long for nationwide marriage equality to happen!

In December 2014, we bought a house in Indianapolis. We just happened to find a house on a small street with at least 3 other gay couples on it. Furthermore, there is another same-named lesbian couple 2 houses down from us. What are the odds?

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What is your favorite thing about being married?

Is it okay for my answer to be “enjoying the same legal rights and protections that straight couples have enjoyed for years”? If so, that’s totally my answer.

[Editors’ note: OF COURSE it is okay!]

What do you fight about?

As silly as this sounds, one of the only things we’ve fought about is how little we fight. Anna V used to get a little worried that we never fought about anything. I remember one day we almost got into a full-out fight about not fighting. But over the years I think we’ve come to realize that our lack of fighting is a testament to how well our personalities fit together. We are similar in a lot of ways, but in the areas that we’re different, we are complementary.

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What do you like best about your wife?

Everything!

Okay, I guess I will try to be more specific. She is one of the smartest people I know, a top-notch problem solver, and also someone who I’m infinitely grateful to have in my life when I’m at my lowest low or my highest high.

Oh, and the songs that we make up on the spot for our various dogs and cats are just incredible. Not sure why we don’t have a record deal yet.

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Describe a typical day in 5 words (or slightly more!)

Cats. Dogs. Pretty Little Liars. Beyoncé. (Beyoncé transcends word limits.)

What is one thing you and your partner do to relax?

Watch Beyoncé videos or ride bikes (while pretending to be in a Beyoncé video).

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What is the best wedding gift you received?

The best gift from our wedding was being able to have a giant celebration with so many important people in our lives. You don’t really think about it before the wedding, but it’s incredible to be in 1 physical space with 150 people who have known you, loved you, and supported you throughout various stages of your life. I’m forever grateful to my parents for making such a huge celebration possible. 

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What moment from your wedding still stands out most in your mind?

There are actually 2 moments that stand out most to me. First, Anna V’s vows were incredible. I’ve never heard such beautifully written, sincere, thoughtful vows. (She likes to make fun of me because I was the only person at the wedding who didn’t cry when she read her vows, but I cried when Jim and Pam got married on The Office. Oops. For the record, I did cry when we got legally married in San Diego, so I guess I made up for it.)

The second stand-out moment was my dad’s toast. Given that we were having a wedding in a state that didn’t allow us to legally marry, my dad’s words of love and support meant the world to us. Here’s a quote from his toast that basically made everybody in the room totally lose it:

I’m not gonna stand up here and try to tell you that when my daughter was a little girl I thought “I hope someday she’s gonna grow up and marry a nice girl.” What I did hope for was that my daughter would grow up, and meet and marry her best friend, her soulmate, someone as a couple they could go through life, enjoying all of life’s joys.

And I got exactly what my father hoped I would. Life is just better with my lady by my side.

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Brides Revisited is a series in which we check back in with the couples who’ve appeared on our site in the past. If you and your one true person are interested in being featured, we’d love to hear from you—whether you call yourselves brides, brooms, spouses, or something else entirely!

 

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Brides Revisited: Annie & Sandy

Last summer, we featured Annie and Sandy’s elopement in Avila Beach, California. We caught up with the couple to hear more about post-wedding life and how marriage equality has affected their lives. Plus, they have some great advice to share for newly married couples!

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Give us a life update! Have there been any major milestones since we heard from you last? 

Being married was a natural progression for us. Our love, friendship, commitment and daily life remain strong and steady. Since June of 2015, when our marriage became protected in all states, Annie has been able to be open with her employer and co-workers. We have had some illnesses that gave us each the opportunity to pamper the other.

What is your favorite thing about being married?

EVERYTHING! Two really do become one in their hearts, minds, and spirits. Also, building and looking forward to a shared future.

What do you fight about?

We haven’t fought yet. We have had opposite opinions that caused us to take time to think before we finished conversations.

What advice would you give to people who have just gotten married?

You must be adult to be married. Treat each other as an adult not a child. Act as an adult not a child. Give your all to the two of you.

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What do you like best about your wife?

From Annie: Her adventurous spirit, her forward thinking, her dreams for our future
From Sandy: Her calm, her solid foundation, her logic

Describe a typical day in 5 words (or slightly more!)

Wake, Eat, Work, Sleep (all with love)

What is one thing you and your partner do to relax?

Our most favorite is to pile up in bed with snack food and watch a movie or recorded TV. Time for us alone is always the best.

What is the best wedding gift you received?

We eloped, so there were no material gifts. The love and acceptance of family and friends has been our favorite gift.

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What moment from your wedding still stands out most in your mind?

A line of our vows stated that we would comfort each other with words or with silence if it was needed. At that moment, the sounds of the ocean became completely silent as if in affirmation of our vow.

If you had to compare your marriage to an animal, what would it be and why?

A large grizzly bear. Large and strong enough to keep away any threats of danger, warm and soft for comfort, and self-sufficient enough to endure months of hibernation.

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