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Brides Revisited: Tracey & Angela

When we asked A Bicycle Built for Two’s founder Tracey to help us kick off our new Brides Revisited series, she said that our timing was “perfect.” Tracey and Ang’s five-year anniversary is coming up, and Tracey says “time has flown—but it also feels like a lifetime (or two).”

Check out their perfectly nautical wedding here, enjoy these pictures of their tiny, adorable babies, and read about their planning process in our archives!

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Here’s a quick timeline of their relationship:

January 2009: Met
February 2010: Engaged
February/April 2011: Married (legal/wedding)
April 2012: Began trying to conceive
December 2012: Got pregnant with twins
January 2013: Moved from NYC to San Diego
July 2013: Gave birth to boy/girl twins

What is your favorite thing about being married?

Going through all of life’s joys and sorrows (and everything in between) with my very best friend.

What do you like best about your wife?

How dedicated she is to our family. She is the best mother and an excellent wife. Angela is funny and fun and we really have a good time together.

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What do you fight about?

We fight when we are worn out: tired, overworked; emotionally drained, physically drained, etc. Angela is a stay-at-home mom to our two-year-old twins and that is a huge job. I work full time and have the strain of having to financially provide for our entire family—also a huge job. When I come home from work (promptly at 5:45), I take over with the kids and Angela makes dinner. I feel like I never get a break, but she feels like she does everything! I’ve heard that partners who both feel like they do 70% of all the work in a relationship usually are pretty even in sharing the responsibilities. We definitely each feel like we are doing 70% of everything!

I miss the time in our relationship when we were focused on what we could do for the other person. Now we are stretched so thin that any little time we selfishly take for ourselves. Right now in our household you rarely hear “what can I do to help?” and instead it is “can you please do this for me?” This is something that we are working on.

Describe a typical day in 5 words or less.

Endless chaos.

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What is one thing you and your partner do to relax?

We have always loved to travel and we make sure we take a kid-less vacation each year. When the twins were born we went to Croatia without them. Amazing. Last year we went to Antigua, and this year we are taking 8 nights away in the Caribbean. We also take a nap during the weekend when the kids are napping—chores can wait. With kids it’s those little things.

What is the best wedding gift you received?

My wife. Hands down.

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What moment from your wedding still stands out the most in your mind?

I don’t really have a specific moment that stands out above the rest. It’s funny—five years later, I don’t often think about our wedding day. I glance at photos on occasion and have absolutely wonderful memories. I wouldn’t change much if we were to do it over. Overall, when reflecting on our wedding, I remember overwhelming love and lots of laughter.

What advice would you give to people who have just gotten married?

If you are planning on having children, take as much time as you can to enjoy married life without kids. Our children are the best things that have ever happened to us, but our focus has entirely shifted from each other to our children. I am so glad we had time in our married life where we just basked in our love for each other. I love remembering that time. But I also wouldn’t trade where we are now for anything.

Also, don’t put yourself in situations where you might be tempted to do something foolish. It’s easy to make good decisions if there isn’t any other option. It’s much harder to make a good decision when temptation (whatever that is) is right in front of you.  Angela and I both do things on our own, with our own friends, and we trust each other implicitly, but you won’t find me drunk at a bar without her.

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A few more thoughts:

Relationships are hard and marriages are especially hard. But putting in the work is so worth it. You might disagree with me on this, but I think it is important that same sex-couples take extra caution when deciding to get married. Although we know that marriage equality is a constitutional right, many still think of it as a privilege that “they” have bestowed on us. I want us to show the nation that the right decision was made. I beg you not to rush into marriage and to stay committed. We are trailblazers; we are examples. I want our children to be proud of who we are and where they come from. I don’t want the world to have any reason to want to regress.

Brides Revisited is a new series in which we check back in with the couples who’ve appeared on our site in the past. If you and your one true person are interested in being featured, we’d love to hear from you—whether you call yourselves brides, brooms, spouses, or something else entirely!

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Announcing the “Brides Revisited” Series!

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A few weeks ago, we alluded to a new feature here at A Bicycle Built for Two and today, we’d like to introduce you to our new Brides Revisited Series! (Yes, that’s right. Put two English majors at the helm of this blog, and we can’t resist a good British literature pun!)

You know that part in every episode of House Hunters where the hosts return a few months later to see how everyone’s adjusting to their new home? That is exactly what we’re going for– minus the awkward faux gatherings and plus some of the amazing couples who’ve been featured on this blog!

If you and your spouse have submitted photos from your wedding or engagement (or both!), we’d love to hear from you. How’s marriage treating you? What do we have to look forward to after all the rainbow cupcakes are gone?

Hint, hint: if your anniversary is coming up, this might be a fun little surprise from one wife to another. We’d be happy to coordinate with you on dates!

Get in touch to tell us you’re interested, and we’ll get back to you with some fun questions to answer! We’re hoping to start the series sometime before Valentine’s Day with an extra-special guest.

Photo courtesy of Cassandra Zetta.

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Happy, Merry, Bright!

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Happy holidays from A Bicycle Built for Two! 2015 has been an incredible year for LBTQ weddings, and we can’t wait for more adorable engagements, DIY unions, bow ties, two-dress weddings, dapper brides, and much much more in 2016. Our New Year’s resolutions include featuring even more women of color and trans+ folks (submit, submit, submit!), finally re-launching our Instagram, and maybe (maybe?) taking a ride on a real bicycle built for two!

We’ll be taking a break for the next week or so to enjoy some time away with our families, far away from the computer—in the meantime, we hope your days are well-caffeinated and full of love!

If you’re missing us, don’t forget to saunter on over to our Pinterest page, like our Facebook page, check out our Tumblr, or explore the archives (did you know there’s a little pull down menu in the right-hand sidebar that allows you to jump to any past month?). We’ve got enough wedding and engagement inspiration to keep you busy until we come back in 2016.

Photo courtesy of Capture Photography.

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Work with Us in 2016!

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A new year is just around the corner…

If you’re a wedding-related vendor, A Bicycle Built for Two would love to help make 2016 a great year for your business. Are you a photographer with a flair for beautiful first looks, a wedding planner who doesn’t blink an eye at a mile-long to-do list, a master ring designer, or a florist with an eye for the perfect arrangement? We’d love to partner with you!

We offer:

  • exposure to our base of more than 14,000 visitors monthly, many of whom visit our site regularly as they plan their big day
  • an opportunity to showcase your work to our readers
  • the chance to be a part of our welcoming, diverse community of fans and sponsors
  • competitive pricing on sidebar ads and sponsored posts, with the personal attention and flexibility of our small business
  • the satisfaction of knowing you are supporting an independently owned site committed to providing wedding inspiration and planning resources to queer women and to sharing the love stories of diverse LBTQ+ couples

If any or all of the above sound like something you’re looking for, don’t hesitate to get in touch for details about rates and availability. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Photo courtesy of Wild Bloom Photography, one of our lovely sponsors.

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Come Visit Us on Pinterest!

After far too long, A Bicycle Built for Two is back on Pinterest, where we have new lesbian and queer wedding inspiration boards featuring expanded versions of some of our recent galleries. From a growing collage of beautiful bouquets to quirky delights like a collection of our wedding/engagement photos featuring umbrellas, we have dozens of new pins to help you plan…or just for you to admire! In working on these boards, Ashley and I rediscovered just how addictive Pinterest can be– if you need us anytime in the next six years, we’ll be here, scrolling through pictures of delicious-looking wedding cakes.

Speaking of social media, don’t forget to follow us on Tumblr, where we regularly post some of our favorite images from the blog archives– and Facebook, which is now being updated on a regular basis by the lovely Shannon (many thanks to her!).

Do you have ideas for other Pinterest boards/Tumblr features/inspiration galleries? Leave a comment on this post or drop us a line with your thoughts! We’d love to hear from you. And don’t forget to send us your wedding and engagement photos. We’d especially love to see more submissions featuring people of color, plus-sized ladies, masculine-of-center folk, and people from outside the U.S.A.!

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Photo courtesy of Hartman Outdoor Photography.

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Links & News for Advertisers!

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Over the last few months, couples from A Bicycle Built for Two have been showing up all over the web:

If you’re looking for more Bicycle Built for Two goodness around the web, don’t forget to check out our Tumblr page– where we regularly feature current photos from the blog and throwbacks from the archives!

In other news…

If you’re a photographer or other wedding-related vendor, you might be interested to know that we have just launched several new advertising initiatives, so if you’re interested in working with us on an ad, a sponsored post, or even a giveaway for our beloved readers, then please get in touch A.S.A.P.!

Photo courtesy of Amber Wilkie.

 

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A Big Thank You for a Big Day!

It was almost five years ago that Tracey started this site to collect ideas for her own two-bride wedding. In the last five years a lot has happened. First, you all started reading this site, looking at pictures and submitting your own stories. Then, Tracey and Angela got married, on a boat in San Diego. They had some beautiful babies, and then Shannon came on the scene, to help with the blog and leave Tracey more time for parenting.  And finally, not too long ago, Ashley and I took over, to track the ever-increasing number of pictures and emails coming in.

As all that happened, the world was changing around us. Gay marriage was slowly legalized, state by state, case after case made their way through the courts, and activists made petitions, phone calls, and speeches. And now, today, the Supreme Court of the United States ruled in favor of true marriage equality, in every state in the country. Get out your rainbow flags and your sparklers and go buy yourself a milkshake! Today is the day!

Ashley and I found this blog when we were in college, newly out to ourselves and our families, and looking for role models. Googling “lesbian” was still a scary prospect, but when I first saw the tandem bicycle picture we all know and love, I knew I had found a good place. In the days that followed, we scrolled through pictures, read stories, and started to see ourselves in the pretty dresses, dapper vests, converse sneakers, laughter, tears, and love.

So today, we want to thank Tracey for starting this site and keeping it going, for giving us pretty pictures and true stories, wedding inspiration, proposal ideas, and so many role models of women who express their love fully and deeply every day. We want to thank Shannon for the work that she did to update the site on a regular basis, and we want to thank you for reading and submitting your photos and your stories! Thank you, too, for the work you’ve been doing offline, the work of coming out to friends and family, standing up for your rights, and living your lives as honesty and as kindly as you can. That work could not be more important.

Of course, that work is not over– and in the coming days and weeks and years, we will keep working, so that our friends around the world can express their love freely and legally, so that our friends at home can be sure of fair treatment and safe spaces regardless of their gender identity and expression, and so that all of us can celebrate ourselves and our loves with the full support of our governments, our friends, and our families. But today, we will celebrate by holding our wives (and partners and girlfriends and puppy dogs) close and raising our glasses to Mary Bonauto and Edie Windsor and the many, many, many other women (and men!) who have helped us to win this victory! HOORAY!

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