Popping the Question: Walking Down the Aisle

We’re back with another installment in Popping the Question, our series where we tackle questions unique to wedding planning as a queer couple.

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Photo courtesy of Jason Worrell Photography

Earlier this fall, we asked you about walking down the aisle. How do we, as queer couples approach this tradition? What unique and personal twists can we bring to this aspect of the wedding ceremony? Today, we’re featuring some of your answers! 

From Leah:

My wife and I danced our way down the aisle! Our music was from Pirates of the Caribbean (we’re Disney freaks, among other things we’re freaks about) so it worked out! The way our venue was set up, we had a short distance, and it intertwined with our guests. Pretty awesome to see my wife to be (extrovert) rock her way up to our ceremony space while I (introvert) got to kiss and hug all our guests on the route! Our Honor Party of Awesomeness walked into Hedwig’s Theme from Harry Potter (I am a Potterhead). One of the best aspects was that all of our music was played by an instrumental trio that included flute (my aunt), a cello, and a violin. We loved it!

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Photo courtesy of Karen Leah Photography. (See more from Leah and Lisa’s beautiful, colorful wedding here!) 

From Deborah:

In the first picture, you see my adult son “walking me down the aisle” (there was no aisle). As I said in the write-up to our wedding, “He didn’t want to give me away because it’s a patriarchal tradition, but I said to view it as being a psychopomp, and he agreed he could get behind that.”

My father passed away between the engagement and the wedding, but I wouldn’t have wanted him to walk me anyway. We didn’t have a good relationship, and my son was much more intimately involved with Melissa & I as a couple. Walking with Arthur felt more “us.”


Photo courtesey of MPR Studio. (You can see more from Deborah and Melissa’s wedding here!) 

From Mel and Rachel:

Rachel and I (Mel) just got married June 3, 2017. We decided to forego a wedding party, and we’re both only children whose parents mean the world to us. The walk down the aisle began with our friend Topher, who walked our Yorkie mix Judy to the birch altar we bought on Etsy. (Judy wore a white dress too!) Then Rachel decided she wanted to go down the aisle before me, which worked out well because I wanted to go last! She walked in with a parent on each arm, and then I did the same. I wouldn’t change a thing!

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Thanks to everyone who responded! Stay tuned for our next Popping the Question soon! 

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