Popping the Question: Love Songs

Welcome to Popping the Question, our new series here at A Bicycle Built for Two, where we tackle questions unique to wedding-planning as a queer couple. 

Today, we’re thinking about music—a tricky thing for every couple, but one that can be made even trickier if you (like me) tend to get hung up on things like heteronormativity or gender pronouns! So today, we’re asking for suggestions for the ultimate LBTQ wedding playlist: What songs were or will be must-plays for your wedding day? What about that all-important “first dance” song?

Take a quick break from calling your senators and writing to Congress (you’re doing that, right, U.S. readers?) to drop us a line or leave a comment.

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What was your “first dance” song? What will be the theme song of your wedding? What are your favorite not-too-heteronormative love songs?

Share your song suggestions in the comments and/or via email. Then, we’ll make a playlist for everyone to enjoy!


In other news, we’re always accepting your submissions. Now more than ever, we are committed to celebrating our love and our community, and seeing photos from your weddings and engagements in our inbox warms the cockles of our queer hearts!

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  1. Erica
    Posted Wed, Jan 25, 2017 at 7:46 am | Permalink

    First dance: ‘Heavenly Day’ by Patty Griffin

    Also, excellent wedding songs:
    ‘Wherever is Your Heart’ by Brandi Carlile
    ‘Love Is the Seventh Wave’ as covered by The Duhks (and thus sung by a woman!)

  2. Erica
    Posted Wed, Jan 25, 2017 at 4:55 pm | Permalink

    Ooh! Also, ‘Way to You’ by Brandi Carlile. I knew there was another one from an earlier album (XOBC)…

    • A Bicycle Built For Two
      Posted Wed, Feb 01, 2017 at 4:00 pm | Permalink

      <3 Brandi Carlile!

  3. Posted Mon, Jan 30, 2017 at 11:12 am | Permalink

    Our first dance was “This Must Be the Place (Naive Melody)” by the Talking Heads. For Melissa, the lyric that nailed it was “Home, is where I want to be/But I guess I’m already there”.

    Our second choice was The Beatles, “Here, There, and Everywhere.”

    • A Bicycle Built For Two
      Posted Wed, Feb 01, 2017 at 4:00 pm | Permalink

      Awww that is definitely the perfect lyric!

  4. Léah
    Posted Wed, Feb 01, 2017 at 2:45 pm | Permalink

    My wife and I signed our first dance in ASL. Well, we dance a little when there was only music. 🙂 We signed “Give Me Your Forever” by Ben Harper. It was a surprise to everyone as we didn’t tell a single soul what we were planning. It was pretty awesome to see and hear all of the reactions from our guests when we broke apart and started signing to each other.

    • A Bicycle Built For Two
      Posted Wed, Feb 01, 2017 at 4:02 pm | Permalink

      That’s so sweet! I always love it when the couple finds a way to surprise their guests!

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