Wedding: Ashley & Sherry

Hello! You may remember us from our engagement post.

From Ashley:
Our June 30 wedding was exactly what we had hoped it would be: colorful, quirky, and full of so much love. We didn’t want to do anything because tradition dictated it; but rather we wanted to create an event filled with things that reflected us. Like red shoes and robot socks.

Four days before our wedding, the Supreme Court overturned DOMA. Our marriage was already going to be legal in Massachusetts, but this meant our marriage would also be recognized nationally, giving us and our guests even more reason to celebrate.

We made nearly everything for the wedding ourselves. For months Sherry and I had projects going on – bunting banners, the photobooth, centerpieces, a cornhole set, chalkboard signs – just to name a few.

We incorporated personal touches or connections in almost every aspect of the wedding. We wanted everything to feel like US. A close friend got ordained online so that she could marry us. She did an amazing job and it was so special to have her guiding us through our commitment. We wrote our own vows, which we didn’t share with each other beforehand. It was such a joy to hear each other speak from the heart, in front of all our loved ones, and I am still impressed that Sherry managed to artfully quote Phil Collins in her vows. After our ceremony, we did an informal Chinese tea ceremony with Sherry’s family, which was an opportunity for them to offer their blessings to us.

We asked two friends to perform our first dance. They sang Adele’s version of “Make You Feel My Love.” We weren’t that into the first dance as a tradition, but being serenaded by two of our close friends made it so special. To our surprise, our sisters and a few friends even joined in with kazoos for the chorus. It was perfect.

The event was even DJed by one of our favorite Boston DJs who has come to know a lot of our friends as regulars at a queer dance night in our neighborhood. The music was really important to us, and she did an awesome job. Our guests did not leave the dance floor.

My favorite thing about the wedding was having so many people from various aspects of our lives come together around us. The barn was just bursting with happiness, love, and support for us. There were no sides or cliques. As the final dance ended everyone on the dance floor just embraced in a group hug. That’s how the whole day felt – one giant group hug that I never wanted to end. I have been trying to keep that feeling with me and bring it to my marriage every day since.

I enjoyed wedding planning so much that, in the process, I co-started a wedding and events planning company, called Blue Jar Events. I hope to help other couples – especially LGBTQ couples – create meaningful, beautiful celebrations.

Photographs by Solare Wedding Photography.

Event Credits

Attire: Ashley's Wedding Dress: Mikaella Bridal, purchased from VOWS, Sherry''s Suit: Black Lapel Cakes and Dessert: 'Cuz it's Good Whoopie Pies Catering: Cloverleaf CateringLocation: Peabody, MAMusic: Sound Choice Events Other: Ashley's Hair & Makeup: Station 8 SalonPhotography: Nora & Troy, Solare Wedding PhotographyPlanner or Event Designer: Ashley / Blue Jar Events Venue: Smith Barn at Brooksby Farm
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  1. Posted Mon, Oct 14, 2013 at 9:45 am | Permalink

    love these! congrats to this happy couple… 😉

  2. Molly
    Posted Mon, Oct 14, 2013 at 11:05 am | Permalink

    This was—hands down—the best, most love-filled wedding I’ve ever attended. Such a treat to know this beautiful couple.

  3. Liz
    Posted Wed, Oct 23, 2013 at 7:30 pm | Permalink

    What am amazing wedding, and such beautiful photos! I love your story. And I absolutely need to know where you got your gorgesous red shoes, Ashley! I’d appreciate it! 🙂

    • Ashley
      Posted Tue, Jan 28, 2014 at 10:34 pm | Permalink

      So sorry for the delay, Liz, I just saw this! They are Fidji brand – I bought them from Zappos or another online shoe retailer. They were very comfortable!

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