One of the best aspects of maintaining this blog is the friendships I have cultivated. Over the last year I have had the pleasure of witnessing an elopement in NYC, having drinks with two brides from across the pond, met newlywed readers on a cruise in the middle of nowhere, rented our apartment out for a week while we were in Alaska, and have had numerous readers and vendors over to sip and chat on our Brooklyn terrace, and met a couple that has kept me semi-sane through the trying to conceive process – all people (now friends) that I have met through blogging.
And although I haven’t met Tami and Cheryll IN REAL LIFE, I have emailed with Tami numerous times and certainly consider her a friend. She even invited us to their wedding (so sweet!). Unfortunately, we couldn’t make it and from the look of these pictures we certainly missed out!
From Tami: From our first date Cheryll and I knew that we had the makings of the most loving, solid and respectful relationship either of us had ever experienced and we have been together since. We got engaged quickly (we proposed to each other at separate times) but our wedding planning took nearly two years.
We were married on October 11, 2012, at Estancia La Jolla in the beautiful Torrey Pines area of La Jolla, California. At first we were going for a beach/Hawaiian type wedding but when I found my gorgeous dress we had to change our direction. This venue was perfect for the style and theme that enfolded around our planning. Cheryll chose the date 10/11/12 as kind of a joke at first because I like to celebrate all our relationship milestones and she needed a date she could remember. It worked out in our favor because being a Thursday evening we were able to score several deals with vendors. We later realized that this day is also National Coming Out Day, how apropos!
We were fortunate enough that while we had some bumps along our planning, having to decide not to use our previous planner because our tight budget didn’t allow for this expense and our previous photographers went bankrupt and named us in their claim (can you believe it?), we were still so blessed to have options. We were friends with Sara and Ryan of Sara + Ryan Photography and they were going to be guests at our wedding; Sara was even supposed to officiate our ceremony. They agreed pretty last minute to shoot our wedding and we are forever grateful to them. Our wedding pictures were everything we could hope for! We also met Amy June of Affairs by Amy through Sara’s suggestion of a pro-LGBT vendor. While we only hired Amy last minute as a day-of coordinator, she went above and beyond in helping us find the last of our vendors and because of her relationship with them we were extended many discounts.
My best friend and maid-of-honor agreed to officiate our ceremony. This was so special to us because she has been there from the beginning and truly supported and uplifted our relationship. While it rained on our day, which is good luck, and we had to move our ceremony indoors, and it was the only thing we had to decide last minute. It’s true what they say that on your wedding day nothing else matters but the love that is surrounding you.
We had many little touches incorporated that were special to us. Because it was National Coming Out Day, we placed a basket of knotted ribbons at our ceremony asking our guests to pin them on because everyone has the right to “tie the knot” and we hoped our wedding would be a symbolic event that helped minimize the fear and burdened hearts of many when faced with coming out. We decided to have a hot chocolate and cookies station for dessert. We supported the Girl Scouts of America and their inclusion policy by serving several of their cookies. Cheryll is a Starbucks fanatic and I surprised her with cake shots in her favorite flavors, caramel macchiato and white chocolate mocha. We had a photo booth (we have taken our fair share of photo booth pics) and we used the pictures taken as our guest book, letting everyone sign the pages. We chose a fabulous DJ who used actual turn tables!! Cheryll even walked down the aisle to Outkast’s “So Fresh, So Clean”!! And instead of a formal rehearsal dinner the night before, we invited several friends and out-of-town guests to a wine & taco event the day after our wedding at our favorite local urban winery, Fifty Barrels in Oceanside. This was a great way to say goodbye before everyone departed.
Cheryll says her favorite part of the day was when we read our personal vows to each other. I am typically the most emotional person you will ever meet, but I don’t think there was a dry eye in that room! My favorite moment was our reveal. We chose to say our goodbyes after breakfast that morning and get ready separately. I will never forget the moment I saw her! She not only looked amazing but she was soooo hot!
Many of our vendors were friends before this day but we are so happy that all of the new people we met along the way are now friends as well. Everyone put in 150% to make this day happen and we were so blessed! We truly had our dream wedding down to every detail of our vision!
Tami, I cannot get over that photo of you putting in your earring. Stunning! All shots courtesy of the very talented Sara + Ryan Photography.