There are so many wonderful things about running this blog, but one of the absolute best is when we can help one of you surprise a wife or partner on a special occasion. Anna & Anna’s wedding was five years ago today, and we are thrilled to celebrate them with this sweet post from one Anna to another. Read on to see what they’ve been up to in the last few years—and happy ANNA-versery to one of our favorite same-named couples!
Give us a life update! Have there been any major milestones since we heard from you last?
Anna (“the short one in the dress”): Absolutely! In December 2012 I finished my master’s degree in Human-Computer Interaction/design (HCI/d) from Indiana University in Bloomington. Shortly after, I got a job as a UX Designer in Indianapolis, and we’ve been living there ever since.
2014 was a big year for us. I started at job at Salesforce (which turned out to be one of the companies that was instrumental in striking down discriminatory anti-LGBT legislation in Indiana). In May 2014, on our 3-year wedding anniversary, we went to San Diego (where Anna V grew up) and got legally married. Unfortunately, at the time, when we returned to Indiana our marriage wasn’t recognized by the state, but luckily we didn’t have to wait too terribly long for nationwide marriage equality to happen!
In December 2014, we bought a house in Indianapolis. We just happened to find a house on a small street with at least 3 other gay couples on it. Furthermore, there is another same-named lesbian couple 2 houses down from us. What are the odds?
What is your favorite thing about being married?
Is it okay for my answer to be “enjoying the same legal rights and protections that straight couples have enjoyed for years”? If so, that’s totally my answer.
[Editors’ note: OF COURSE it is okay!]
What do you fight about?
As silly as this sounds, one of the only things we’ve fought about is how little we fight. Anna V used to get a little worried that we never fought about anything. I remember one day we almost got into a full-out fight about not fighting. But over the years I think we’ve come to realize that our lack of fighting is a testament to how well our personalities fit together. We are similar in a lot of ways, but in the areas that we’re different, we are complementary.
What do you like best about your wife?
Okay, I guess I will try to be more specific. She is one of the smartest people I know, a top-notch problem solver, and also someone who I’m infinitely grateful to have in my life when I’m at my lowest low or my highest high.
Oh, and the songs that we make up on the spot for our various dogs and cats are just incredible. Not sure why we don’t have a record deal yet.
Describe a typical day in 5 words (or slightly more!)
What is one thing you and your partner do to relax?
Watch Beyoncé videos or ride bikes (while pretending to be in a Beyoncé video).
What is the best wedding gift you received?
The best gift from our wedding was being able to have a giant celebration with so many important people in our lives. You don’t really think about it before the wedding, but it’s incredible to be in 1 physical space with 150 people who have known you, loved you, and supported you throughout various stages of your life. I’m forever grateful to my parents for making such a huge celebration possible.
What moment from your wedding still stands out most in your mind?
There are actually 2 moments that stand out most to me. First, Anna V’s vows were incredible. I’ve never heard such beautifully written, sincere, thoughtful vows. (She likes to make fun of me because I was the only person at the wedding who didn’t cry when she read her vows, but I cried when Jim and Pam got married on The Office. Oops. For the record, I did cry when we got legally married in San Diego, so I guess I made up for it.)
The second stand-out moment was my dad’s toast. Given that we were having a wedding in a state that didn’t allow us to legally marry, my dad’s words of love and support meant the world to us. Here’s a quote from his toast that basically made everybody in the room totally lose it:
I’m not gonna stand up here and try to tell you that when my daughter was a little girl I thought “I hope someday she’s gonna grow up and marry a nice girl.” What I did hope for was that my daughter would grow up, and meet and marry her best friend, her soulmate, someone as a couple they could go through life, enjoying all of life’s joys.
And I got exactly what my father hoped I would. Life is just better with my lady by my side.
Brides Revisited is a series in which we check back in with the couples who’ve appeared on our site in the past. If you and your one true person are interested in being featured, we’d love to hear from you—whether you call yourselves brides, brooms, spouses, or something else entirely!