Engagement: Natalie & Susanna

From the couple:

How We Met
Natalie and Susanna met at the University of the Pacific after a Pep Band gig. Susanna was in charge of the instrument closet and was bringing Natalie’s roommate an instrument to borrow. For years Susanna thought she was carrying a tenor saxophone, and Natalie said it was a trombone. True to form, Natalie was right.

After a year of friendship, Natalie and Susanna started taking a music history course together on Romanticism. It was through that course and their camaraderie in their music fraternity that they began to fall in love. (It didn’t hurt that Susanna had to borrow Natalie’s textbook constantly either!)

At first it was a cute joke. Natalie soon become Susanna’s fake girlfriend because everything in the universe seemed to say they should be together. From their love of The Court Jester to sharing the same shoe size and a love of words and grammar, they seemed to be a perfect match.

Within a month of “fake dating” they realized that what they had was real, and with a bit of pushing from friends and some liquid courage they moved from “fake dating” to just dating.

The Proposal
Four years later, Susanna and Natalie knew that they both wanted to propose to each other, so they decided that one would go first, and the other would go right after. Like the planners they are, they decided they would go to University of the Pacific, where they first met, to propose. Conveniently, Susanna had a choir concert in Stockton the night of 9/24, so they went to Pacific after the concert. (Well, after they had a drink first so they weren’t as nervous…)

When they were “fake girlfriends,” Susanna would walk Natalie to her car after their Romanticism class. Susanna would even carry Natalie’s books for her while walking to her car! They went back to that classroom after 4 years of absence and started their walk. Most of what was said on the walk is now a blur, but the part Natalie remembers the most is when Susanna said, “When we were walking to your car 4 year ago, I had no idea that I was walking with my future wife.” She stopped walking, turned to Natalie and said, “Will you marry me?” And through much crying she said, “Yes! Of course!”

Then it was Natalie’s turn! She took Susanna on a walk to a beautiful part of campus called The Columns. It is a circle of Ionic columns, with circular benches all around. Natalie wanted to bring Susanna there because the architecture reminded her of their trip to Italy together, and how in love they felt there. She had always wanted to bring Susanna back to Rome to propose by the Pantheon, and the columns reminded her of their special place. She took out a card, and handed it to Susanna. The card talked about some of the themes from their Romanticism class, and how the music they listened to was circular in form, with no end, just like their relationship. At the end of the card, she wrote, “Will you marry me? Check yes or no!” Of course, she forgot to bring a pen! But Susanna had one and checked yes.

Photos courtesy of Bill Quinn Photography.

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Event Credits

Location: University of the Pacific, Stockton, CA engagementPhotography: Bill Quinn Photography
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Meet the Team: Adriana

Another Friday, another new team member to introduce!

Today, we’re pumped to present Adriana, A Bicycle Built for Two‘s new Outreach Editor! In this role, she connects with the ABBFT community to bring you insight into the LBTQ wedding world. Just this week, we featured her work in our latest Brides Revisited interview with Shoshana and Meredith. We can’t wait to read more awesomeness from Adriana (I, for one, am hoping to get ahold of some of these vegetarian recipe haikus…)!

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Tell us a little bit about yourself!

I’m just a lesbo living in London who enjoys alliteration. I’m a fond lover of cats—really out of the norm for lesbians, I know. In between my love of cats and avoiding London on a Saturday afternoon, I teach the youth of tomorrow.

How did you find A Bicycle Built for Two?

One of the Sundays where you’re curled up on the couch *for a quick 10 minute sesh* and lo and behold, 10 hours later I was scrolling through ABBFT and weeping a tiny bit at how beautiful all these wonderful stories of love were.

What do you love about the site?

That it provides a space for queer women to seek out ideas for weddings, to find stories about love between people, and all the pictures of cake.

What was/is one must-have for your wedding?

Very few people there. Only the people I love. Which are my cats.

What do you do for fun?

Google vegetarian Buzzfeed recipes and write haikus about vegetarian recipes.

Anything else you’d like to add?

I feel really lucky to be able to be part of a team that wants to create such an amazing site for queer women to form a network and community that promotes, honors, and celebrates love in all its wonderful and complex forms.

Thanks to Adriana for sharing her time and her talents with A Bicycle Built for Two! Give her a warm welcome on in the comments.
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Wedding: Mo & Stacey

From Amanda Photographic: Mo & Stacey are two of the most genuine people I’ve had the good fortune to meet since moving to Bend. We hit it off immediately over pints of cider and gushing about wedding plans, snowy adventures, and their dog Georgia. We started our photo-relationship with their engagement session at Edison Sno-Park just outside Bend, which contrasts so beautifully with their summer forest wedding at Horse Creek Lodge in McKenzie Bridge.

The wedding day started like any other… with a mountain bike ride. A dozen or so wedding guests joined them for a few “laps” around a forested trail system near the lodge while designated friends and family continued set up for the ceremony and reception later that afternoon. Both Mo and Stacey agreed that it was a great way to get some energy out while spending time with friends. 

They got ready together while guests began to filter in and enjoy the teahouse tipi, lawn games, photo-booth, and scenery. When it was time for the service to begin the guests made their way down a wooded path with photos of the brides on either side; they were greeted by a sage smudging before entering the clearing. Both Mo and Stacey were walked part way down the aisle by their parents and Georgia; after a family hug the parents found their seats at the front while Stacey & Mo high-fived their way down the aisle – their roomie, Alicia, played her guitar and sang for the processional. A close friend, Jenni, officiated the ceremony while radiating love and joy over them; another friend, John Paul, made their rings and passed them between guests for blessings. Thoughtful vows were exchanged that were serious with a pinch of humor followed by placing a ring on the other’s finger. Another friend, Beth, read an original poem that she wrote for their wedding that left everyone who wasn’t already crying in tears. This was my FAVORITE part! 

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I asked Stacey & Mo what they thought about their special day. Here’s what they had to say:

What was your favorite part of the day?

Mo: The Ceremony. Stacey doing 15 push-ups in a wedding dress. (It totally happened!)

Stacey: The ceremony—looking out at all the smiles and the teary faces of our most favorite people….and sharing the most pivotal experience of my life with all of them. All of the hugs!

What are you most looking forward to in married life?

Mo: More adventures!

Stacey: Not planning another wedding. (Lol!)

What advice do you have for others?

Mo: Make lists, ask for help, invite people you want to build community with.

Stacey: Make lists and make more lists, Smaller is better—invite those closest to you, and those that you want to pull even tighter into your community. Delegate tasks…don’t do everything yourself. Ask for help—friends are resourceful and are always happy to help!

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Soapbox: In some of our initial emails it was brought to my attention that planning a wedding and attempting to hire vendors was a bit of a daunting task. Each time Mo would email a potential vendor she would have to preface it with the fact that she and Stacey are a same-sex couple hoping to work with them. Fortunately there are sites like A Bicycle Built For Two, which is where they found me. It hadn’t occurred to me (privilege) that one aspect of wedding planning/vendor hiring that could be particularly stressful for queer couples is coming-out over and over and over again to strangers via email. Is this person LGBT-friendly? Affirming? In our current climate, being part of the LGBT community is hard enough. Planning a wedding is hard enough. Doing both probably feels impossible sometimes. …which to me is complete crap! Nobody should feel sadness, fear, pain, or loss because of who they love. If you are fortunate enough to love and be loved by another human being hold on to it with everything you have…and give a big middle finger to anyone who tries to take that away from you. Mo & Stacey—I adore you both, your love for adventure, your fierce commitment to your community, and the work you both do. Thank you for letting me celebrate you!!!

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Event Credits

Catering: El SanchoLocation: Horse Creek Lodge, McKenzie Bridge, OregonMusic: Cascade CrescendoOther: Rings: John Paul DesignsPhotography: Amanda PhotographicVenue: Horse Creek Lodge
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Brides Revisited: Shoshana & Meredith

London-based couple Shoshana and Meredith were first featured on the blog in 2014, when they shared their adorable engagement story. Since then, they have been busy with their vlog, Shoshana’s illustration and greeting card business, Shoshy Cadoodle (she does wedding invitations, friends!), and so much more!

Our new Outreach Editor, Adriana, sat down with the couple to bring you our first in-person Brides Revisited!

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Having conquered long distance and gotten married in 2014, Meredith and Shoshana now live in London with their cat, Monkey. I sat down with the charming married duo on a grey drizzly Saturday morning. What’s apparent upon meeting them is how warm they are. Turning up 20 minutes late, I profusely apologized, only to be greeted by Shoshana offering to buy me a coffee. After settling in an outdoor courtyard, I launched into questions:

Would you have gotten married at the same time as you did if you hadn’t been living in two different countries?

M: I knew it was love at first sight. Shoshana’s more practical. I would have.

S: It’s hard to say, I think. I think we would have continued dating, but it might have been a longer time frame for us to get engaged and married.

Did you find it hard when Meredith moved, Shoshana?

S: I think that moving in together was a big step and I think that was the biggest step for us actually, not the getting married bit.

How have your parents been about everything, in general? Their reaction to you both getting married and moving?

M: My parents are really supportive of us getting married, but I think it was difficult for my mom with me moving all the way to the UK, as we’re a really close family and I think it might have changed the dynamic of our family unit in some ways.

S: We usually go [to visit] once or twice a year; sometimes Meredith goes on her own, sometimes I go with her.

M: My parents were cool with me and Meredith. I think they found it harder when I came out. Our parents get on really well, which is nice.

S: I think when you get married you’re also marrying someone’s family. It’s like you’re merging mini cultures and you have to get to know their traditions. It’s a relationship that takes time.

M: We’re quite lucky we got on straight away with each other’s family.

What’s the best thing about being married?

M: I found when I was dating it was difficult for me to be myself fully, whereas with Shoshana I do ridiculous things with her and I think there’s this shared moment where we like look at each other and smile… Like if something weird happens we can just look over at each other and know what the other is thinking.

S: I think for me, it’s having that constant support and love.

M: I also say what she says!

What’s the best thing you do on a weekend? Any weekend traditions?

S: Coffee is an always thing. I don’t think we necessarily have weekend traditions. At the moment our weekends and weeks are more blurred. Since I work from home and Meredith is waiting to start a course in filmmaking in September, we see each other a lot.

What do you guys fight about?

M: Cupcakes!

S: We did yesterday.

Do you ever fight about the fact that you (Meredith) moved so far to be with Shoshana?

M: No, I did make that decision. It’s never been something I’ve held against Shoshana. Luckily we go back enough. I can’t speak for Shoshana, but sometimes it’s just about picking and choosing what to fight about.

S: We usually argue about something small/insignificant…. We fight about food a lot.

What’s one piece of advice you would give to newlyweds?

M: It’s nice to have side projects together. I think, when I was working, I really enjoyed being creative with Shoshana—we did this by making our video content (our YouTube channel).

S: That’s quite hard, I’m trying to think… Maybe make some plans… Have a project that you can work on together.

What’s the quality you admire most in each other?

M: Shoshana, if she has a dream or an idea, she follows through on it.

S: I like how funny and silly Meredith can be.

What’s a quality you dislike (if there is anything)?

M: Shoshana can be impatient at times…

S: Sometimes Meredith is a bit scared that she’s posted something online or she hasn’t locked the door… a bit obsessive. (I know it’s not something you can change). I think that your life would be easier if you could overcome that.

If you could visit anywhere in the world together and experience something completely new where would it be?

S: Either Africa, but I’m a bit worried about homophobia, or Australia.

M: We’d like to go somewhere wild, sleep in a treehouse. But a obviously a lush treehouse.

Favourite rainy day activity?

S: Watching TV

M: Watching Gilmore Girls!

What are some long-term goals? Where/what would you both like to be doing 5 years from now?

M: Filmmaking. I’d love a tandem bike.

S: At the moment, I work from home. I like the flexibility my job gives me. I run workshops and create greeting cards. I’m working on designing wedding invitations. In the future, I want to push my illustration, get more editorial work. Maybe have a baby.  

What’s a go-to gesture you’d do to show you care?

S: I’d cook you a meal with all your favourite things.

M: I think I’d do what I usually do which is I would write you a letter… Leave it in a place where only you would find it.

Thank you to Meredith and Shoshana for continuing to share your story with us! Brides Revisited is a series in which we check back in with the couples who’ve appeared on our site in the past. If you and your one true person are interested in being featured, we’d love to hear from you—whether you call yourselves brides, brooms, spouses, or something else entirely!

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Meet the Team: Casey

Another Friday, another new team member to introduce!

We’re celebrating FriYAY by introducing you to Casey, our new Content Editor at A Bicycle Built for Two. You can see some of her awesome work in our Popping the Question: Love Songs post from this week, but be sure to stay tuned for more from this DIY & cat-loving team member!

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Tell us a little bit about yourself!

I’m Casey! I’m a 26 year old living in Boston, originally from California. I work in non-profit fundraising as a development officer, and I use she/her pronouns.

How did you find A Bicycle Built for Two?

I found ABBFT during finals one year in college. I wasn’t out yet and it was incredible and so reassuring to see couples that looked like me falling in love and getting married. It gave me hope.

What do you love about the site?

Everything! I love seeing two people so in love and all the intricate details that go into decorating for everyone’s special days.

Are you married/unmarried/planning a wedding/etc.?

I am in a long term relationship. I think she’s pretty much the best person in the world so I would be into planning a wedding with her someday.
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What was/is one must-have for your wedding?

I really love anything DIY and hope to make as many things by hand for our wedding as possible.

What do you do for fun?

I love anything having to do with cooking or baking. My partner and I always try to go on little mini adventures around New England to explore new places. I also love my cats and love talking about them.

Ah, so you have pets! Tell us more.

My partner and I have three cats. We adopted a kitty off the street about a year and a half ago and she turned out to be halfway through a pregnancy, so when the kittens came we kept two and they make up an odd adorable little family.

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What’s your favorite kind of sandwich?

Turkey club hands down forever and ever.

Anything else you’d like to add?

If you like pictures of cats and baked goods, or want to connect, come find me over on Instagram @caseyshizuye!
Thanks to Casey for sharing her time and her talents with A Bicycle Built for Two! Give her a warm welcome on in the comments—and look out for our final “Meet the Team” post this time next week.
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Engagement: Link & Lupe

From Erin, Link and Lupe’s photographer: Not too long ago, I had the great pleasure of meeting Link and Lupe for the first time. Referred by a mutual friend, they contacted me about photographing their engagement session, and intimate wedding to be held in Boston. Link and Lupe were planning to get married in Boston prior to their move to Massachusetts from California. So, after many emails back and forth, and a few phone calls, we had a plan! For their engagement session, we decided to meet up in Amherst, for coffee at Amherst Coffee HA!, because well, COFFEE!!! What followed was a stroll at the Emily Dickinson Museum, and then a gorgeous hike beside the river, and in the woods at The Robert Frost Trail.

The images captured during Link and Lupe’s engagement session, tell the story of the true, deep love that Link & Lupe share…you can see and feel their connection, their commitment to one another. From the gentle tenderness of a hand upon the skin, to that moment of lingering just before a kiss…it all says so much. This kind of deep love, this human connection is what I hope we are all able to find in this life. Thank you Link and Lupe!

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Event Credits

Location: Boston, MassachusettsPhotography: Erin Long Photography
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Popping the Question: Love Songs

We’re back with another installment in Popping the Question, our series where we tackle questions unique to wedding-planning as a queer couple.

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This time, we’re focused on the challenge of picking a first dance song when a lot of songs don’t always feel like they apply to we queer humans the way they do to others.

From Deborah:

Our first dance was “This Must Be the Place (Naive Melody)” by the Talking Heads. For Melissa, the lyric that nailed it was “Home, is where I want to be/But I guess I’m already there”.

Read more about Deborah & Melissa in their Brides Revisited post

From Leah:

My wife and I signed our first dance in ASL. Well, we danced a little when there was only music. We signed “Give Me Your Forever” by Ben Harper. It was a surprise to everyone, as we didn’t tell a single soul what we were planning. It was pretty awesome to see and hear all of the reactions from our guests when we broke apart and started signing to each other.

We also thought we’d give few answers from the team here at A Bicycle Built for Two:

From Morgan:

“Love Me Like You Do” by Elle Goulding – This is good song to dance to and get the party started!

“Take Your Time”by Sam Hunt – I love this song about getting to know someone more and spending time together.

“For My Love” by Bethany Dillon – This one’s an older song—and technically off a Christian/gospel album—but it’s a great love song for everyone nonetheless.

jen and bethPhoto courtesy of Rachel Bayne Photography. (See more from Jen and Beth’s wedding here!)

From Adriana:

“Doo Wop” by Lauryn Hill -The song informed for the first year of my relationship with my girlfriend. We’d lay in various London parks, the sun shining down on us rapping (badly) to the song.

Meanwhile, Maggie and Ashley are hoping that Brandi Carlile miraculously comes out with a few more wedding appropriate songs before they tie the knot! Fingers crossed!

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A few other great ideas from our commenters (thanks, Deborah & Erica!)

“Heavenly Day” by Patty Griffin

“Wherever is Your Heart” by Brandi Carlile

“Love is the Seventh Wave,” as covered by The Duhks (and thus sung by a woman!)

“Here, There, and Everywhere” by The Beatles

megan and lauraPhoto courtesy of Madeline Faye Photography. (See more from Megan and Lauren’s wedding here.) 

Thanks for all your responses! Keep an eye out for the next installment of Popping the Question, when we’ll talk about how you chose to walk down the aisle.

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