When we asked A Bicycle Built for Two’s founder Tracey to help us kick off our new Brides Revisited series, she said that our timing was “perfect.” Tracey and Ang’s five-year anniversary is coming up, and Tracey says “time has flown—but it also feels like a lifetime (or two).”
Check out their perfectly nautical wedding here, enjoy these pictures of their tiny, adorable babies, and read about their planning process in our archives!
Here’s a quick timeline of their relationship:
January 2009: Met
February 2010: Engaged
February/April 2011: Married (legal/wedding)
April 2012: Began trying to conceive
December 2012: Got pregnant with twins
January 2013: Moved from NYC to San Diego
July 2013: Gave birth to boy/girl twins
What is your favorite thing about being married?
Going through all of life’s joys and sorrows (and everything in between) with my very best friend.
What do you like best about your wife?
How dedicated she is to our family. She is the best mother and an excellent wife. Angela is funny and fun and we really have a good time together.
What do you fight about?
We fight when we are worn out: tired, overworked; emotionally drained, physically drained, etc. Angela is a stay-at-home mom to our two-year-old twins and that is a huge job. I work full time and have the strain of having to financially provide for our entire family—also a huge job. When I come home from work (promptly at 5:45), I take over with the kids and Angela makes dinner. I feel like I never get a break, but she feels like she does everything! I’ve heard that partners who both feel like they do 70% of all the work in a relationship usually are pretty even in sharing the responsibilities. We definitely each feel like we are doing 70% of everything!
I miss the time in our relationship when we were focused on what we could do for the other person. Now we are stretched so thin that any little time we selfishly take for ourselves. Right now in our household you rarely hear “what can I do to help?” and instead it is “can you please do this for me?” This is something that we are working on.
Describe a typical day in 5 words or less.
What is one thing you and your partner do to relax?
We have always loved to travel and we make sure we take a kid-less vacation each year. When the twins were born we went to Croatia without them. Amazing. Last year we went to Antigua, and this year we are taking 8 nights away in the Caribbean. We also take a nap during the weekend when the kids are napping—chores can wait. With kids it’s those little things.
What is the best wedding gift you received?
My wife. Hands down.
What moment from your wedding still stands out the most in your mind?
I don’t really have a specific moment that stands out above the rest. It’s funny—five years later, I don’t often think about our wedding day. I glance at photos on occasion and have absolutely wonderful memories. I wouldn’t change much if we were to do it over. Overall, when reflecting on our wedding, I remember overwhelming love and lots of laughter.
What advice would you give to people who have just gotten married?
If you are planning on having children, take as much time as you can to enjoy married life without kids. Our children are the best things that have ever happened to us, but our focus has entirely shifted from each other to our children. I am so glad we had time in our married life where we just basked in our love for each other. I love remembering that time. But I also wouldn’t trade where we are now for anything.
Also, don’t put yourself in situations where you might be tempted to do something foolish. It’s easy to make good decisions if there isn’t any other option. It’s much harder to make a good decision when temptation (whatever that is) is right in front of you. Angela and I both do things on our own, with our own friends, and we trust each other implicitly, but you won’t find me drunk at a bar without her.
A few more thoughts:
Relationships are hard and marriages are especially hard. But putting in the work is so worth it. You might disagree with me on this, but I think it is important that same sex-couples take extra caution when deciding to get married. Although we know that marriage equality is a constitutional right, many still think of it as a privilege that “they” have bestowed on us. I want us to show the nation that the right decision was made. I beg you not to rush into marriage and to stay committed. We are trailblazers; we are examples. I want our children to be proud of who we are and where they come from. I don’t want the world to have any reason to want to regress.
Brides Revisited is a new series in which we check back in with the couples who’ve appeared on our site in the past. If you and your one true person are interested in being featured, we’d love to hear from you—whether you call yourselves brides, brooms, spouses, or something else entirely!